Finding a life partner is like hiring an employee

Guest author and relationship coach Cheryl Walters says finding a life partner is like hiring an employee: 

Your Dating Profile as a Job Description

The key to both is to know what the “job” requires, and then to write a great job description (your online dating profile).  Your profile, if written well, will sort out those who need not apply, and will also resonate with those who see themselves described in your profile.  Just like someone does when reading a job description, they will think, “yes, I do that… and yes, I have that… and yes, I want that, too.”

If I ran a hospital and needed to hire a cardiac surgeon, I would post a listing for the job, along with a very detailed description of what the job entails, including all the requisite skills, certifications, etc., and probably a salary range.  If I were to receive an application from a tennis pro, for example, I would toss it out immediately.  I would not interview him, even if he had a spectacular smile!  No, the hospital needs a cardiac surgeon, not a tennis pro.

Continuing with this analogy, when you receive a response to your profile, your next step is to look at their profile and see if it seems that they are a good fit for the “job”.  Be strong, here.   You are looking for someone to spend your life with, not a quickie weekend!  If you’ve done the work needed to figure out what you must have in order to be happy, don’t throw that hard work away because you’re feeling needy today, or they’re especially cute.

Working with a dating and relationship coach can help you determine exactly what you need, and more importantly, WHY you need what you need.  Only when you know WHY you need what you need can you figure out if you are settling, or if you are compromising.