Have you ever trained for anything before, such as an athletic event, business event, public speaking, operating a new app or piece of software?
If you have, you know that the saying, “practice makes perfect,” has a lot of truth to it. I don’t think I will ever reach perfection in anything, yet I know deep inside that the more I practice, the more competent and confident I will feel.
Let’s apply the training concept to being ready to have a loving relationship.
Before I go into that further, I want to share a story with you.
When I was 12, I started training to become a gymnast. I looked at my peers, who had already developed some challenging skills and wondered if I would ever be able to master those moves.
I had a coach who told me that we would start with learning to do a front flip. She put a safety belt around my waist that had 2 large grommets on the sides. Ropes hung from each side. My coach asked an assistant to come help her with the other side of the belt.
Next, my coach explained that I should run as fast as I could down the mat, and when she said, “NOW,” to jump straight up, bring my knees up to my chin, tuck my chin into my chest, keep my eyes open, and throw my shoulders forward. As if that wasn’t enough, she told me to open from the tucked position when I could see the floor. Whew!
Well, I ran down that mat and she yelled, “NOW!” I thought I remembered what to do, but I didn’t quite make it around. Actually, my coach and her assistant pulled on the ropes to keep me from crashing into the floor, and I felt pretty silly as I dangled upside down.
We kept practicing the skill, until they didn’t have to pull on the ropes any longer. The next step was to remove the ropes. My coach ran beside me, but she knew I had the competence and confidence to do the flip without the ropes. Soon, the belt came off, and I had mastered that skill.
So, how does this relate to relationships?
It’s about training to become confident and competent. I call that “mastering the 2-C’s.” As you start to learn new relationship skills, you’ll want a trusted friend or a support group to help you out and develop your 2-C’s.
There’s no reason to think that everyone is great at finding and keeping a relationship. For many people it takes training – learning new skills that require some risk and lots of practice. Yet, the time spent in training yields amazing results.
Think about the relationship skills you’d like to have, then look for the resources to help you.
The reason we named our company, Fit4love, is that we believe that training and relationship skill fitness are essential to having a loving, fulfilling partnership with that special someone.
Until next time, enjoy the journey!
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